As February comes to a close, take a look back to the beginning of the year and evaluate the success of your 2020 resolutions. Statistically speaking, about 80% of all New Year ‘s resolutions fail– most losing traction by mid-February. There are several reasons why the odds are stacked against the always-popular “resolution.” Below, we’ve compiled the top four reasons why you haven’t reached your goals yet and how to get back on track:
Your goal was too big
It’s great to have the ability to dream big, but sometimes lofty resolutions set you up for failure. Trying to accomplish a big goal can be daunting and unmotivating, and there’s a good chance it will discourage you from even starting!
If you have a substantial goal for yourself, such as losing a significant amount of weight or running a marathon, don’t let it go! Instead, break that big objective up into smaller steps or “mini-goals” that you can accomplish over time– such as focusing on losing two pounds at a time or increasing your running miles by a half-mile every few weeks. Happiness and satisfaction are truly found in the journey, not the destination! Not to mention, frequent small wins are a total mood booster!
You forgot about it
More often than not, we come up with a goal we would like to accomplish in the new year, but don’t put a working plan in place to achieve it. Before you know it, Valentine’s Day comes around and you realize you completely forgot about making progress towards your objective.
When you decide to start working towards a goal, be intentional about it. Get out a notebook and write out what you want to accomplish in detail. Then, break it up into smaller, more attainable steps (write that out in detail too!). Keep this paper somewhere where you can see it every day so that you’re constantly reminded of what you’re working towards.
You tried to do it alone
Whether you feel too embarrassed to talk about your goal out loud or you’re someone who struggles with asking for help, resolutions are best reached when done with the accountability and support of someone you trust. Make your spouse, closest co-worker, roommate, or best friend aware of exactly what you are trying to reach.
Take it a step further and consider investing in coaching or mentoring from a group or service that specializes in your goal. According to the American Society of Training and Development, you have a 65% chance of success if you confide in and commit to someone. Additionally, if you have regular accountability appointments with that person, your chances of reaching your goal jump up to 95%.
If you aspire to read 10 books before the end of the year, but you’re not someone who typically reads a lot, search for book club meetups in your area to keep you motivated and accountable. If your 2020 goal is to lose weight, it may be in your best interest to sign up for a weight loss program for accountability. This way, you are setting yourself up for success with both nutrition education and support at the palm of your hand whenever you need it!
You were so focused on the destination that you forgot about the journey
It is exciting to look towards the future and set intentions! Sometimes, though, we get so caught up in visualizing what our lives will look like once we reach the goal that we try to rush the process. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day! Not only does the journey build character and teach you valuable life lessons, but also focusing on the present instead of fixating on the future (and past) is said to make us happier and more successful. Keeping our minds in the here and now allows us to focus on what we can do in the present to improve.
“Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome.”
– Arthur Ashe
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